Teenage Pregnancy, Pregnant Teenagers, Options And Tactics For Handling Teenage Mums & Their Parents

Teen pregnancies and teenage mums / mothers. It is the dread of many parents that their teenage daughter becomes pregnant. This is usually because they see their daughter still as a baby herself and that her life prospects have usually just gone straight down the pan, especially if she is a young teenager. Life can be harsh for a young teenage mum, but their are support groups for all teenage pregnancies.

Teenagers who get pregnant very rarely stay with the father of the baby, either through their own choice or because the father does not want to have a baby messing about with their own personal plans. This, in six out of ten babies born to teenage mothers, will leave the mother on her own. Apart from initially telling her family, she will have some major decisions to take which could affect her for the rest of her life, both physically and mentally.

For a teenage girl who thinks she, may be pregnant, either visit your physician or buy a pregnancy test kit. It is now a little bit to late to think about contraception, that horse has bolted a long time ago. The family physician may have to inform your family of your predicament, depending on the state or country that you live in.

If the pregnancy test proves negative, then hopefully you may of learnt by your mistake and will once again at least consider some kind of contraception, or enter into a Convent, which may be a bit extreme. If the pregnancy test proves positive, then you have to buck up and face the consequences, which may not be as harsh as you think.

Never be afraid to tell you family that you are pregnant. Mums and Dads are usually very supportive in more ways than their children think. They have lived their lives and know the pitfalls and tribulations which are associated with teenage lives. If necessary, sit them down together and simply just be yourself and tell them. The initial shock will be the worst moment, like pulling a tooth, sharp and painful, but then over and done.

Books can help teenage mums and parents understand.

Parents love their kids, and are more protective over their daughters than their sons, it is just that way. The initial shock will soon disperse as they take in the information, and shoot lots of questions at you, which if answered honestly, will be much more easier on the teenage mum in the long run. After several bouts of tears, threats, much shouting, and possibly throwing items around the room, peace will descend once again, after all you are their daughter. They love you so much and by the end of the day, the damage is already being repaired, even though their pride or ego has just taken a battering, you are still their angel.

Many young dads or 'dads to be' generally tend to disappear prior to the baby being born. This is the irresponsible behaviour received by many pregnant teenagers who supposed that their man / boy would stand by them. They don't. Many males just want to have fun and do not take the responsibility they should if their girlfriend gets pregnant. This is called the 'nob' syndrome by many parents who have just discovered that their daughter is pregnant.

The father is financially responsible for that child up until the age of consent. If the father is still around and willing to do their bit, and the Grandfather to be has not shot him yet, then excellent. Every child deserves a mother and a father, together they must decide on whether to have the baby, to have an abortion, or to have the baby adopted.

Have The Baby

This option will delight the parents, even if it is eventually. Keeping the baby maybe a difficult choice, especially if the mom is still at school. There are many organisations that will assist with bringing up the baby, but the best one will still be your own mum and dad. Financial aid is possible, charity groups, and even major stores will donate to worthwhile causes and independent mums.

Having the baby is an unwritten contract with another human being that you will take care of them till they become the legal age. Through good and bad times, you must help nurture this young mind, through illness and hardship, this new life will be your number one priority. It does mean restricting your life to a certain degree, but not destroying it.

Abortion

This type of conclusion for a pregnancy has forever been the topic of conversation. Some people see it as killing a baby, whilst others say it is only a foetus and there is no harm done. At the end of the day, it is down to the teenage mum to be to decide what is best for her. Abortion rates are climbing annually as more and more teenagers become accidentally pregnant. Abortions may have a detrimental effect on a person physiologically for years to come, and there may also be physical harm done to the internal parts of the woman.

Seek medical advice from professional physicians and not just from mates, they don't know that much.

Adoption

Having the baby adopted after it has been born is a very difficult time, and emotional scars can last for many years, similar to abortion. Giving your baby away when it has just left your womb after nine months with you is very heart wrenching and emotionally draining. But, if it best for you and the baby, then it is only your choice.

It is your body and your baby, ask 100 people for their opinion, and you will get over 80 different answers. The choice is yours alone to make.

Your daughter needs you the most at this moment in time. She has been your life for so many years and now she has come to you in her real hour of need. After the initial shock and outrage has calmed down, you will find a new compassionate you. She is still your daughter, and you cannot lock her in a tower until Prince Charming comes along, at this point it sounds like he has already been and gone.

Rage and anger do not make up for love or help forge lasting relationships between you and your daughter. You must assist her, and not matter what, you will be there for her anyway. Mother daughter relationships are very strained at times, and this situation may not help a lot. You have guided you angel for years, you must now help guide her to a decision that will be beneficial to her and the unborn infant.

As Grandparents you will be required to babysit many times, buy extra gifts and possibly clothe the baby on numerous occasions. Having children never gets easier, the problems just get more different and complicated.

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